What do you think of when you hear the words strong and kind? Do you think of a person? A verse maybe? I sat for a moment and thought of these two words and instantly I thought of my father. Anyone who knew him could attest to the strength, maybe not his muscles, but his resilience or sturdiness, but tempered with kindness. While his childhood was anything from easy, he purposed to provide an example for me and my sisters of a life filled with character to be imitated.
When I came across this new book Strong and Kind - And Other Important Character Traits Your Child Needs to Succeed by Korie Robertson, I couldn't wait to read it. My favorite part of having my kids at home is that we have greater opportunity to mold their character (by the sheer fact that we spend so much time together). Even though I am already working on it, character training is challenging business, and I need all the encouragement I can get! In her book, she expresses the importance of being the kind of person you want your children to grow up to become.
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Pick Two: What do you Value?
One of the greatest discouragements to me as a mother can be seeing all of the amazing things that you could teach your kids or do with your kids that I'm not doing. When I take my eyes off of my vision for where we're going, I often feel like a failure. Even with something as wonderful as character building, the work required can be overwhelming. Korie Robertson is such a gracious mentor as she starts the book with pick two. She offers a beautiful list of qualities that could be cultivated, but encourages you to focus on two that are the most important. In addition, later in the book, she encourages you to focus on those two for a week.
"Sometimes we need the grace to go slow if we truly want to make a lasting impact on the lives of our children."
Takeaways from Strong and Kind
First of all, my husband has already asked to read this book because of all of the tidbits I've shared with him along the way. I'm excited for him to read it with me so that we can start building our vision together for our own children. Here are some other inspired thoughts I came away with after thinking through cultivating character with Korie:
- It's not only important to model good character, but it's important to surround my kids with adults who express the character as well. The fact that the Duck Dynasty family all live on the same street together attests to this. It helps to have other great examples for your children to learn from.
- It's important to know which way your child leans on the pendulum of a quality. There's a good and a bad side to honesty. If your child blurts out their "honest" opinion whenever they think of it, that might not be the quality you want to be cultivating. Each of your kids may need a bit different approach in their cultivation.
- Compassion begins at home. I love this quote: "We learn to function first in our immediate families. This is where our character traits are first challenged." Amen.
By far, the line I will write on the wall somewhere to meditate upon is this:
Being perfect parents and raising perfect children should never be our goal. Raising children who believe in a perfect God is.
Strong and Kind Giveaway
I'm so excited for you all to read this book, and I'm thrilled that I get to offer a free copy to one lucky winner! In addition to winning the book, I will also be giving away an exclusive PDF study guide to enrich your reading and thinking. If you would like to get your hands on this book sooner, it releases October 27th and you can find it on Amazon.
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Betsy Strauss is an unexpected homeschooler, mother of three, who is in a relationship with a sweet man for life. She loves reading books, drinking coffee, and learning anything with her kids.